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How To Keep Positive Mind When You Live Alone| Lessons from an Asian Mother.
We normally talking that we are positive people, we do positive things, we live a positive life in front of the others. However, how many percent of what you say is actually true?
Saying with others that “I’m good”, “I’m very active and positive” is very easy. But having a real positive mind to go through all struggles and issues in life is not that easy, especially when you are living alone in another country.
In this story, I love to share with you the ways how my mom — A Vietnamese women who teach and support me a lot to build and maintain a positive mindset for years, especially when I leave 8000 km far away from my house just by myself in Australia as an international student.
Hmm…, first of all, let said the truth:
“We are human! So nobody can have a positive mind all of the time, especially when you faced with struggles in life. But all of us have “CHOICE” to decide how long we want to be in this negative mood, and when we want to turn the “positive button” again”.
For me, I can quickly move out of the negative mood in just a couple of minutes when I spend time calling for my mother. Do you know why?
Because the first thing she always does when having a facetime with me is “SMILING”. Yes, this is one of the most powerful smiles that I have seen in my life.
Because when I see her smile, I have the feeling “Everything will be okie!”. But maybe you also concerned, why the first greeting is always “Smile”? So, I also thought about it before and asked her, and what she said is “I know you live alone is not easy, and whenever you call me, I know you miss me and want to share something with me. So I’m happy to be trusted by you and exciting to hear stories from you. And this is why whenever I see you call me, I always love to hear and smile!”
Yes! This is exactly will turn my day from a negative a positive one. Just start with a SMILE!
And as NBC News used to have an article about the benefit of SMILE, it means help us to feel happier and be positive.
So this is exactly what my mother teaches me:
Learning to smile and let turn the day to be a positive one!
The second lesson is
Enjoy the PRESENT, forgive the PAST, and positive about the FUTURE
“You can not change the past, and you also can not predict the future, what you can do is do the best thing in your life today. Then the future will bring good things, and the past will be your valuable lessons” is what she always reminds me whenever I feel tired or boring when living far away from home.
This is the feeling that I never have before, even that I used to live in another city in Vietnam for 4 years to learn my bachelor's degree, the feeling when study abroad is totally different.
There are so many things you need to concern about, from the pressure from essays in the top University in Australia to the expensive living cost in the most liveable city in the world, Melbourne.
All of these things many times make me feel so down about myself when using a lot of money from my parents to study here.
But my mother’s advice always is the best treatment for me to bring my energy up. Because in her belief, she believes that with a hard-working attitude in life, a positive mindset that she teaches me for years, the good things will come soon. Even it is not happening right away, but it will happen one day soon.
It is also the same as you plan a “Bamboo tree”, it will take 5 years for it gets over the ground, but just less than 2 months to tall 15 meters. So when you also keep a positive mindset and a hard-working attitude, the right things will come to you.
And the last but not least lesson is
Observing your surroundings
YES! That is the last but not least lesson my mother teaches me about how to keep a positive mind for years. And I say it is last but not least because she still teaches me many other valuable lessons in life, but these 3 things (in my mind) is the most impacts to me to build a strong positive mindset.
So why it is “Observing your surrounding”? Let have a look back on yourself, can you recognize that when you feel down or have negative thoughts, and if you spend more time to stay alone, self-isolation in your room, you will be more depressed and get more negative thoughts? But if someone invites you to hang out or you go around to discover the world, looking around to see how people are living, working, you will feel more relax and easier to get your mood back?
This is what actually my mom try to teach me when I still a kid. Because she believes in “Real experience is learning”. So when you spend more time observing your surrounding, you will reduce the time to think about the negative things.
And pay more attention to learn about somethings need surrounding you, see the ways how people are living, interact with others. These kinds of connection, in a direct or indirect way, will help you to grow your character and be more thoughtful in the way you treat with yourself and the things happen in your life.
And if you still be concerned if these tips my Vietnamese mother teaches can actually work or not, let try it out for a week to see how it works.
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